Watch Your Words


Here is a 1 Minute Success Tip from Sharon Michaels

Your conversations have the potential to make a positive or negative first impression.

Watch your words carefully.

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Is Your WHY Big Enough

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  • Your “WHY” is the reason you’ve set a goal and are willing to spend time, effort and even money to achieve it. 
  • Your “WHY” is the motivation that keeps you going toward success, even if / when the going gets tough. 
  • Your “WHY” is the powerful and emotionally charged desire and motivation that wants to make your goal a reality! 

Coaching clients ask if there is a way to predict whether their “WHY” is big and strong enough to ensure that they will achieve their goal. I’ve come up with a checklist you can use to see if your “WHY” is powerful enough to take you all the way to making a goal reality.

1. Can you vividly picture your goal in your mind’s eye?

If you can see, feel, hear, smell and taste your goal, you’ll have a better chance of achieving your goal. As soon as a goal has a prominent place in your conscious mind and you’ve given it real-world attributes, the chances become better for making it reality. 

Your mind will work very hard to make your most dominant thoughts reality – the more vivid and real the thoughts, the harder your mind works.   

 

2. What is it about your goal that motivates you to succeed and will keep you going if the going gets tough?

In order for your goal to become unstoppable, it must be powerfully motivating to your unconscious and conscious mind. Your “WHY” is the motivation that insulates your goal from negative situations, dream stealers and naysayers.

Can you fill up a page of why and how achieving your goal will improve your life for the better? How will this goal improve your life emotionally, spiritually, personally, professionally and financially? The more powerful the motivation, the less likely you’ll give up on achieving this goal. 

 

3. What about this goal is so important to you?

In question #2 you answered what motivates to you to achieve this goal, now write one sentence based on answer #2 to explain why this goal is important to you. 

You’re writing one powerful sentence. This sentence will become an affirmation for achieving this goal.  I am achieving __________________ because _____________________.

 

4. List all the ways you, your family, friends and /or community will benefit when you achieve this goal?

Let’s add more motivation to your “WHY.” How will others benefit once you’ve achieved your goal. You are now explaining to yourself how your goal will not only improve your life but the lives of others as well. 

Expanding the scope of your goal gives it even more emotional power and purpose. 

 

5. Are there any negatives you may encounter? How will you overcome them?

You’ve heard the old saying, forewarned is forearmed – that’s what you’re doing when you anticipate negativity before it strikes. Realistically there will be periods of negativity and the good news is, you don’t have to buy into it! 

 

6. How will achieving this goal change your life for the positive?

This is different from the question #3. In one simple sentence, how will making this goal a reality change your life for the better? You’ll want to carry the answer to this question in your wallet and look at it when your self-confidence or determination becomes a little unsteady.

 

7. Are you willing to spend days, months or even years working toward achieving this goal?

Are you willing to make an emotional, physical, spiritual and may be even a financial commitment to making this goal reality? A “yes” means your why is strong. A “no” means this may not be the right goal at the right time for you. 

What do you think, is your “WHY” big enough to become reality?

 

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Don’t Wait To Set Your Goals

A few years back a friend emailed me this story. I was impressed by the message because it is one we can all learn and remember – don’t wait to achieve your life’s goal tomorrow, begin today. All our great successes begin one small step at a time.

This story has been around for a few years but I wanted to share:

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, “Mother, you must come
to see the daffodils before they are over.”  I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead “I will come next Tuesday”, I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn’s house I was welcomed by the joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.

“Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!”

My daughter smiled calmly and said, “We drive in this all the time, Mother.”  ”Well, you won’t get me back on the road until it clears, and then I’m heading for home!” I assured her.

“But first we’re going to see the daffodils. It’s just a few blocks,” Carolyn said. “I’ll drive. I’m used to this.”  

“Carolyn,” I said sternly, “please turn around.” “It’s all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience.”

After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, “Daffodil Garden.”  We got out of the car, each took a child’s hand, and I followed Carolyn down the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay the most glorious sight.

It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over the mountain peak and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, and saffron and butter yellow. Each different-colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of flowers.

“Who did this?” I asked Carolyn.  ”Just one woman,” Carolyn answered. “She lives on the property. That’s her home.” Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house.

On the patio, we saw a poster. “Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking”, was the headline. The first answer was a simple one. “50,000 bulbs,” it read. The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and one brain.” The third answer was, “Began in 1958.”

For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived. One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence, beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the
greatest principles of celebration.

That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time–often just one baby-step at time–and learning to love the doing, learning to use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent things. We can change the world …

“It makes me sad in a way,” I admitted to Carolyn. “What might I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty-five or forty years ago and had worked away at it ‘one bulb at a time’ through all those years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!”

My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way. “Start tomorrow,” she said.

She was right. It’s so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is to only ask, “How can I put this to use today?”

Use the Daffodil Principle. Stop waiting…..

Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you clean the house
Until you organize the garage
Until you clean off your desk
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until the kids go to school
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die…

Don’t be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

Article originally published by Sharon Michaels © 2009 on BellaOnline.com

 

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One Minute Success Tip – Control Your Time


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I’m a big believer that you either control your time or your time is going to control you.

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Goal Achieving – Should You Be Persistent or Stubborn?

As you read the best-selling books about success, goal achieving and self-development have you noticed the authors consistently praising “persistence” as a powerful success trait? Yet, when some of us become single-minded and focused on getting what we want, we’re called stubborn. Is there a double standard? 

There’s even an emotional reaction just mentioning the words persistent and stubborn – Talk about a persistent person and you begin visualizing someone who is inspiring, dedicated and positive. Mention a stubborn person and you picture someone who is difficult, self-centered and negative. 

Isn’t having a “never give up attitude” suppose to be a positive trait? 

Here’s a scenario:

You set your goals and consistently begin working toward making these goals reality. Months pass and you’re making progress – not a lot of progress but some progress. Family and friends begin to question whether you’re doing the right thing. They even start to say discouraging things about your goals and accuse you of wasting time. You stand up to them – positively and firmly telling them that you aren’t giving up nor stopping until your goals are reality.

Are you being persistent or just plain stubborn?  

 

Here are some traits associated with being persistent:

  • The act of continuing, regardless of obstacles
  • Refusing to let go
  • Refusing to give up; steady and determined. 

Here are some traits associated with being stubborn:

  • Unwilling to change one’s mind
  • Obstinate, unyielding.

What do you think of this definition from author and speaker Bob Burg?

Persistence is positive and is “results-based.”

Stubborn is negative and is “ego-based.” 

 

Does a person’s perception of what it means to be persistent or stubborn have something to do with labeling the actions of another? Is it personal judgment based on your own likes/dislikes and values/beliefs that makes a difference between someone being persistent or stubborn? What if the person doing the labeling has never set a goal and doesn’t understand the goal achieving process, would that make a difference? 

In general, is going for your goals persistent or stubborn? What if achieving your goals won’t benefit anyone but yourself – are you persistent or stubborn? What if the people telling you that you are stubborn are the dream stealers in your life – are you persistent or stubborn? 

I believe there is room for interpretation and debate. I don’t know if there is a definitive answer. What do you think? What are your thoughts? 

I’ll leave you with this quotation from Benjamin Franklin, “Energy and persistence conquer all things.”

 

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Turning Goals Into Gold

I’m not an Olympic athlete – nowhere near that type of physical devotion to a sport. As many of us, I’ve been in awe of the dedication, passion and heart of the proud Olympic medal winners. I’ve listened to the stories of single-minded dedication that turned their hopes into dreams, dreams into goals and goals into gold.

With the 2010 Winter Olympic Games in mind, I read stories of athletes who have trained for years to eagerly participate in a few days of competition. I marvel at the Olympian’s single-minded commitment and concentration. What does it take to turn a goal into gold? Can I, an everyday person, have that same dedication and focus for my own goals?

Studying the biographies of gold medal athletes I began seeing a pattern emerge – a pattern of focus, belief, choices and action. The same pattern that we can use in our own lives to turn goals into gold.

Ask any world-class athlete and they will tell you that as important as the physical game, some say may be even more important, is the mental game. What exactly is the “mental game” and why is it important to achieving goals?

In my opinion, the mental game of turning goals into reality is our ability to focus and remain focused on what is important to setting and achieving goals. It is also the ability of our mind to act and react positively under pressure. As I read about gold medal athletes, four key elements of their “mental game” became clear:

1. Focus – the ability to concentrate on the end result. A gold medal athlete never loses sight of what they were aiming toward – winning the gold medal.

2. Belief – top athletes believe they are the best in their chosen sport. They train not only physically to win but mentally as well. They train to emotionally hold tight to the belief that they can and will take home the gold.

3. Action – gold medal winners train constantly and consistently to be the best in their sport. Natural talent is important but for gold medal athletes, it is the combination of physical and mental preparedness that can make the difference between hope for gold and holding a gold medal. World-class athletes are dedicated to doing what it takes to turn natural talent into gold.

4. Choices – winners know that the quality of their choices make the difference between wearing the gold medal and going home empty handed. It’s the same for us; the quality of our day-to-day choices can make the difference between dreaming about our goals and actually achieving them.

How does your goal achieving “mental game” stack up against the dedication and focus of our gold medal Olympians? Are you willing to mentally, and physically, focus on turning your goals into gold?

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1 Minute Success Tip – Grow Yourself


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Business success is tied to personal success – grow yourself and you’ll grow your business!

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Dreaming Big Or Being Realistic

We had vivid imaginations as children. As an adult, have you lost some of that child-like ability to imagine the future? 

Is the ability to dream BIG a valuable goal setting / achieving skill or an unrealistic time waster? 

I see coaching clients often divided into two groups – the dreamers and the realists. The dreamers are reaching for the stars and the realists are going for the sure thing. Which is the best approach to setting and achieving goals? In my opinion it is a combination of both. 

Here’s what I think: 

The Dreamers: It is an asset to be able to focus on the future and to vividly see what you want and then picture how you’re going to achieve it. Sometimes, the dreamers don’t realize their limitations. The dreamers are excellent at creating affirmations and visualizations. 

The Realists: They know their strengths and weaknesses. They have a firm grasp on what works and what doesn’t but often will stop themselves from coming out of their preconceived comfort zone. The realist is excellent at mapping out step-by-step and day-by-day plans for achieving their goals. 

The Realistic Dreamer: They have a down to earth ability to dream BIG. The realistic dreamer knows how to set goals that stretch beyond their current comfort zone and yet, they don’t find themselves getting discouraged with frustrating and unworkable expectations. 

Here are a few examples:  

The Dreamer: A five-foot five adult person whose goal is to stretch and become a six feet seven professional basketball player is unrealistic. A more realistic goal may be to play basketball for recreation and coach others who love the game. 

The Realist: The middle-aged mother who wants to go back to school but is sure that she has lost her edge. She’s been out of school for many years and refuses to enroll in college classes. A more realistic approach would be to take one class at the local community college or an adult education course to get herself feeling comfortable learning and growing within a structured environment. 

The Realistic Dreamer: The woman in business who decides to expand her business into a foreign country although she has never been outside of the United States. She develops a business plan and seeks out a mentor or coach who is knowledgeable in foreign commerce. She reads, learns and begins growing toward her dream one positive step at a time. 

A realistic dreamer does not allow uncertainty or insecurity to stop them from setting goals. They realize that coming out of a comfort zone means seeking out advice, help and support. 

Becoming a realistic dreamer is about knowing what you want to achieve, why you want to achieve it and being able to map out a viable and doable plan of action. Combining the child-like ability to dream with a realistic assessment of what can be done, is a powerful and extremely valuable goal achieving skill. 

Which are you – the dreamer, the realist or the realistic dream?

Please share your comments, thoughts and suggestions.

 

Copyright © 2010 Sharon Michaels – All Rights Reserved

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1 Minute Success Tip – Deserving Money


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Making the amount of money you deserve is about believing you deserve to be making money!


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Should You Rethink Your Goals

When is the best time to regroup and make the time to seriously look at where you are headed toward achieving or not achieving your goals? When should you rethink your goals? 

Nothing is etched in stone! Setting goals is a starting point for mapping out the future. You have the right to change your mind and regroup your thoughts. The key though, is to make sure you are changing and regrouping for all the right reasons. 

Here are some questions you may want to ask yourself: 

1. Have I given myself enough time to work on achieving my goal? 

2. Have I written a clear and workable plan of action that will take me forward each day, week and month toward this specific goal? 

3. Do I believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that I will achieve this goal? 

4. Is my goal something I truly want, not something others say I should want or do? 

5. Is my “why” for achieving this goal emotionally powerful enough that I find myself consistently motivated and enthused? 

6. Can I visualize the completion of this goal in my mind’s eye and that picture excites me toward success. 

7. Am I feeling uncomfortable because I’m not sure I can live up to the expectations once I actually achieve my goal? 

8. Have I surrounded myself with like-minded success oriented people who encourage me to go for my dreams and goals? Or, am I allowing dream-stealers to influence my self-confidence? 

9. Have I devoted enough quality time to working on this goal? 

10. Is it time for me to seek out a mentor, coach or someone who can advise me on achieving this goal?

From personal experience, my advice is to stop, think and analyze exactly why you want to stop working toward this particular goal. Take the emotions out of the scenario and logically analyze why it may be time to stop. If a goal is not going to bring you happiness, peace, contentment or prosperity – then it may be time to set a different goal for your future. 

The key is not to give up because it is difficult – the key is to stop when it is not worth your time and emotional effort to continue.

 

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