Yesterday I had a coaching client say, “I never seem to achieve my goals. Am I hopeless?”
Here is my thought: No one is hopeless – misguided maybe but not hopeless.
Achieving goals involves a combination of emotional preparation and physical activity. The mindset of success is just as important as the physical activity of working toward your goal. Without the mindset of success, physical activity can be like spinning your wheels on ice – the wheels go around but you’re not going anywhere.
Using words such as never, hopeless, loser, this doesn’t works or it’s a waste of time sets yourself up for failure. These words create the mindset of disappointment and not the mindset of success.
Here’s a short checklist for creating a successful goal achieving mindset:
1. Belief in yourself and your ability to succeed. Belief can make the difference between spinning your wheels and living out your goals. What do you believe about your ability to succeed? Do you say positive things about yourself, to yourself? Do you believe without doubt that you deserve to succeed?
2. Clearly know what you want to achieve. Are your goals clearly written in specifics? Is there a beginning date and completion date? Can you clearly visualize your goal and does it seem “real” to you? Are you specific and definite about what you want to achieve?
3. Is the “why” for achieving your goal strong enough to overcome roadblocks and obstacles? Your inner motivation must be big enough and powerful enough to keep you going forward even when you’re faced with negativity and discouragement. Is your “why” big and strong enough so discouragement won’t deter or dissuade you?
4. Make your goal your own. Is your goal really your goal? Is the goal you are aiming toward and working to achieve really your goal or is it someone else’s? Sometimes, we get caught up in the hopes and dreams of others and we can’t seem to separate their wants and needs from our own. If the goal you’re aiming toward is important enough to you personally, professionally and/or financially, you’ll work extremely hard to achieve it.
If your desire to achieve is strong enough and the plan you’ve set in place is workable, your goals have an excellent chance of becoming reality. The question remains: Do you have the mindset of success?
Copyright © 2010 Sharon Michaels – All Rights Reserved
For over twenty years Sharon Michaels has been writing, speaking and empowering women to achieve greater personal and professional success. Sharon mentors/coaches women entrepreneurs about learning to recognize the things they’re doing that may be keeping them from the things they want.
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