Question: Why do I keep achieving negative goals? Is there such a thing as a negative goal?
Answer: Setting negative goals – that sounds counterproductive. Who would want to intentionally make something negative, hurtful or harmful a reality? But, that’s exactly what many of us do. A negative goal focuses energy on what we don’t want to achieve.
Answering [...]
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Question: Why do I seem to do everything else except set my goals? I know they are important but I can’t seem to get around to working on them.
Answer: The key words in your question are “get around to working on them.”
If you don’t believe in the importance of setting goals, they won’t be important [...]
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Question: I’ve been disappointed so many times when I try to set my goals and I’m about ready to give up. Is it really worth getting my hopes up?
Answer: I remember a quotation from motivational speaker Les Brown: “If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.”
Are you happy with where [...]
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Yesterday I had a coaching client say, “I never seem to achieve my goals. Am I hopeless?”
Here is my thought: No one is hopeless – misguided maybe but not hopeless.
Achieving goals involves a combination of emotional preparation and physical activity. The mindset of success is just as important as the physical activity of working toward [...]
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February 8, 2010 – 10:43 am
As you read the best-selling books about success, goal achieving and self-development have you noticed the authors consistently praising “persistence” as a powerful success trait? Yet, when some of us become single-minded and focused on getting what we want, we’re called stubborn. Is there a double standard?
There’s even an emotional reaction just mentioning the words [...]
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December 23, 2009 – 9:36 pm
A coaching client recently said: “I have a difficult time setting goals because I can’t visualize the future.”
Here are some suggestions I gave her:
1. Start picturing an empowering future by setting small day-to-day goals. Thinking six months, a year or five years into the future can be overwhelming for many. Start small, build up the [...]
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December 5, 2009 – 9:18 am
When coaching clients say to me that they are reluctant to set goals, I know there are deeper issues involved.
Here are seven reasons I’ve found that people may be reluctant to set goals – do you have more to add:
1. Many people are afraid they will let themselves or someone else down. They don’t like to be disappointed [...]
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November 23, 2009 – 11:06 am
Why do goals stress me out?
In fact, goals scare me. I feel if I don’t achieve my goals, I’m a loser. Some people see goals as motivating but I see them as stress producing. Any suggestions?
In my coaching/mentoring I hear this quite a bit – goals create stress and pressure instead of motivation and excitement [...]
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October 30, 2009 – 10:20 am
In my workshops, women often say to me: I don’t feel very motivated by the goals I’ve set for myself, what should I do?
Here are a few suggestions:
1. It’s time to revisit your personal and professional mission statements. It’s easy to lose sight of what’s important when you lose sight of your “Why.”
2. Also, check to make sure your values [...]
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October 13, 2009 – 9:05 am
The beauty of goal setting is that it helps expand your imagination. I like to say that setting a goal should stretch you in terms of dreaming big but not break you. There’s a difference between dreaming big and dreaming the impossible.
The purpose of a goal is to give you focus and direction. A well-written [...]
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